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Sat
14
Apr

"Is this the real life?....."

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To quote Freddie Mercury, "Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy?...."

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Fri
07
Jan

Command performance

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Something I have seen recently on some of the poly sites I have been reading really angers me.

It refers to sex.
Not sex as wonderful, dirty, wild, maybe kinky, bliss inducing fun.
But sex as a DUTY!

This angers me.
We are not slaves (non-consensually).

To proclaim sex a duty enslaves us. It removes the spontaneity and freedom which help to make sex so fantastic and make it into a mechanical routine.

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Mon
04
Oct

Sweet Shop Poly

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Do you remember being a kid? Do you remember standing in a sweet shop looking at all the sweets and really wanting them, wanting to try the bon bons and also the humbugs and also the toffees and also the cherry drops and also.....

This is what poly is like for some people.

We live in a majority monogamous culture. We are told that you get one partner and that's your lot.

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Mon
19
Apr

Mental shackles

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I have recently been thinking about the way that our modern way of life makes relationships more difficult, in particular our capitalist paradigm and the ubiquity of porn.

In my view, capitalism makes relationships harder because it pre-programmes us to be selfish and to be "a consumer". In the capitalist world, we are all in individual competition with others for goods or services which are produced with an artificial scarcity.
To quote Margaret Thatcher: "There is no such thing as society: there are individual men and women, and there are families."

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Sat
13
Mar

Giving up victory

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Currently I am trying to argue more constructively. Giving up the need to "win" an argument is an important part of this process. I find that when I can bear this in mind things go much more positively.

We are all human. We all make mistakes. We cannot and do not always behave as our better selves. When this happens it is vitally important to "own your own shit". To be able to acknowledge and accept that you have screwed up and to take responsibility for the consequences.

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Wed
03
Mar

Men: Emotional Cripples?

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As men in this culture, I feel that we are often trained not to express our full range of emotional responses, (anger is sometimes acceptable) through the fear of "being a fag", "not being a real man", "being pussy-whipped" etc and I think that this can have serious consequences when it comes to relationships.

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