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Thu
31
Jul

A bit of optimism, if I can allow myself to see it

Source Website: atheist, polyamorous, skeptics

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I have a lot of people who love me. I know this, intellectually. Most of the time, I can feel it as well. But sometimes I can’t feel it. Sometimes, my own lies get in the way. My lie, an illusion which obscures reality all too often, is that I’m not worth being loved.

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shaunphilly
Sat
26
Apr

You Can't Handle The Truth! PSA

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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I see a lot of people complaining that someone who blocked them just "couldn't handle a difference of opinion". That's not why people get blocked. Ever. Everyone has friends and family who have different opinions from themselves, and they get along with them fine, or at least put up with them.

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Tue
01
Apr

Why Did Joreth Block Me?

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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For future reference: if I ask you to drop a subject or to stop talking to me for a period, and I warn you that continuing to press the issue will result in me blocking you, it is not a "threat" that you should feel afraid about; I am giving you necessary information to make informed decisions about your future interactions with me.  I hold no illusions that anyone is "afraid" of no longer having contact with me or that it's even something worth fearing.  Frankly, if someone is afraid of that, then I worry about their emotional stability.

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Mon
16
Dec

Call To Assistance: The Big Breakup Project

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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I'm working on a collaborative project with my ex-sweetie involving breaking up. Tell me your breakup stories and preferences? Good breakups, bad breakups, and why were they good or bad? Did you do the breaking up or did they? How often do you do the breaking up vs. get broken up with? What do you wish you had done differently? What do you wish your ex had done differently? How was overlapping social circles handled?

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Sun
15
Dec

Solo Poly / Polysingleish Benefit: Not buying ALL THE CHRISTMAS GIFTS!

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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I have a lot of issues surrounding cultural obligations of gift giving.  A lot of it is internalized so it's not necessarily that any specific individual is making me feel obligated.  But those feelings are there nonetheless.

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Wed
28
Aug

Keep In Touch At Dragon*Con

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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For the last several years, I've maintained a Group Me for conventions.  This is a web-based service that allows you to enter your phone number, join a particular Group Me (or be added by the moderator), and then send a regular SMS text message to the Group Me phone number that will then be relayed to everyone else in the group.  They have the option to do the same.

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Sat
24
Aug

You Have No Claim Over My Dancing

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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So there's a guy who pissed me off recently and I want to delve into it to process the incident. As ya'll know, I do a form of ballroom dancing that's called "social dancing". It's basically people who have learned at least a little bit of formal ballroom, Latin, and/or swing dancing who then go out either to public venues or to ballroom dance studios and other dance spaces and just do what they do. Sometimes we learn something new, but mostly it's about having a good time and practicing or expressing whatever amount we *have* learned.

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Mon
06
May

You Owe Me

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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I appreciate all the ways that technology has made our lives easier, safer, all-around-better.  But there are some social trends that have resulted from some technologies that I'm really not a fan of.  The cell phone is my main bugaboo.

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Fri
03
May

Missing The Point Pedantry

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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There's this thing that otherwise reasonable, intelligent people do that just really pisses me off. I've started calling it Missing The Point Pedantry. This is when someone who is a generally intelligent person with a reasonable amount of social skills decides to argue some pedantic, specific little detail that someone, who is also fairly intelligent with social skills, said in a conversation or online post that completely misses the point of what was being said.

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Sun
28
Apr

Sometimes I Hate Being Right

Source Website: The Journal Of The InnKeeper

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Once upon a time, I refused to delete a person's post in the group I moderated when that person's partner demanded I do so, because I had already spoken to the person in question who merely asked me to amend the post for her, which I did immediately.

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